Comparisons

Lately I have been feeling somewhat taken for granted in my relationship and a little down on life in general. Nothing too severe, but just a general feeling of sadness I haven't been able to shake. Yet isn't it strange when you talk to someone else about this, how different a perspective they can put your situation in.

I have a friend at work who has been with her partner since she was 19. She is now 30 and they have 2 kids. She has been talking for a while about a friend of his who shows her way too much attention and how she feels general boredom and disatisfaction in her marraige these days. She has thought about leaving her husband and usually paints a pretty bleak picture of him. Then she'll say something that makes me think whoa, how could she even consider leaving him.

A few of us were talking about men and their lack of ability to compliment their partners as often as they should. She said her husband never even told her she was beautiful on the day of their wedding, yet he tells her all the time how beautiful she is in her daggiest house clothes, when she absolutely isn't trying. Personally, I would love my partner to tell me how beautiful I am when I look like utter crap.

Then we were talking about time spent together with our partners. She told me she is jealous of how much time my partner and I spend together outside of work, especially considering how much time his band takes up. That surprised me because she knows very well how unhappy I have been yet she sees something she wishes she had.

It is just fascinating that no matter how bleak your own situation seems at times, there is always someone else out there who sees something positive in your situation and wishes they could trade. Sometimes it pays to look through anothers eyes.

Seperate

Ever felt like even though you live in the same house as someone, suddenly it feels like you never see them? Suddenly life gets in the way of actually spending quality time with the person you love and things feel pretty bleak. Feels like I haven't even had a real conversation with my partner in at least a week and haven't had real quality time in much longer.

Hopefully the day is near that we will collide again.

Creepy Photo Guy

My partner and I got portraits done a few weeks ago. It is a local company that comes to your home to do professional portraits with the back drop etc.

It seemed like a great idea to finally get a good quality photo of the two of us together after so many years, so we went for it. The photographer himself was a nice guy and very professional. However a different guy handles the actual printing and ordering side of things.

This other guy came over to show us the photos on his laptop and we both thought okay, a bit wierd but it happens. He asked what we do and I said I work as a psychologist in a prison and he suddenly blurted out that his brother is a paranoid schizophrenic at the local mentally insane prison. A bit much information from a stranger but okay, whatever works.

He called to say he was bringing over the prints we ordered yesterday but my partner was about to leave for a jog. I told him there was no way he was going before the guy came and made him wait. He protested and had a huff about it but I'm glad I made him stay. He said afterwards that the creepy guy did not stop staring at me the entire time he was there and completely ignored my partner.

As he was leaving he asked if we were married and we said no and he went on about if we need a photographer, he can help etc. My partner said he actually thought the guy was going to proposition me right in front of him. Eeek. Totally creepy.

The photos are good but I will definately not be calling that guy up again!